The Fear of Becoming an Expert Leader

“A Journey of a Thousand Miles Starts with a single step “ (Chapter 64 of the Dao De Jing)


“People become Leaders when they first try to master something for themselves!”

At the same time, we have this other voice that consistently tells them they are inadequate, that they are not enough, not smart enough, not focused enough, not thin enough, not experienced enough, not good enough.

The strange thing is that often the more they do, and the more people they help, the louder the voice of inadequacy becomes.

Whether you are just starting this journey, or you’ve been at it for a while just know that the biggest hurdle you are likely to face is being OK with positioning yourself as an expert.

What’s equally important to understand is you’re not alone, I really feel for people struggling with that negative inner voice because in all honesty that’s the way I often feel.

As I am out there in the trenches every single day I still wrestle with these feelings of inadequacy. As I talk to people, I realize that these same feelings keep most people from ever taking on the mantle of an expert.

The voice keeps them from stepping up and stepping into that role. And It’s a tragedy for a couple of reasons. First, it deprives them of the experience and the opportunities they should have and more importantly, it deprives the people of whose lives they could change.

You have the ability and I believe the responsibility to serve others with your gift whatever they are! You’ve been blessed with talent ideas and unique abilities that have gotten you to where you are today in life. And these gifts were given to you so you can share them with others!

There are people today that need what you have, and they are just waiting for you to find your voice so you can help them change their lives. What a tragedy for them if you do not develop your voice now!”

If you would like personalized training or any FAQ’s, please contact Malcolm Stewart at



Malcolm L Stewart

Direct & Response Sales Entrepreneur! Main passions are Mental and Medical Rejuvenation through, Reinvention & Rejuvenation

Excerpts from “Expert Secrets” from Russell Brunson

Reinvention – Developing New Skills for The Future

Learn How to Sell in 20 Minutes


Quadrant Selling

An easy to learn 4 step approach and applying selling techniques for everyone in your business that talks to prospects or customers

Customer service and sales newbies do not like or fear to sell, but unfortunately, they must sell to succeed in their chosen profession

The quadrant selling process is an easy way for the customer service people to understand the basics of sales interaction



The Relaxed Phase is the objective of promoting a Relaxed-State is to stimulate an environment in which the prospect has no cause to be concerned about being confronted with the purchase decision; in other words, develop a relationship with the person, and when both of you are relaxed then you can move on to the next stage


In the Disturb Phase, the objective of promoting a Disturbed-State is to cause a prospective to imagine the pain associated with not owning the product or service being offered. The intention here is not to be cruel but to be kind by allowing the prospect to understand what their situation would be without the benefits of the product and or service


The Relieve Phase is the objective of promoting a Relief-State, which explains the prospect of recognizing options that will alleviate pain. In this case, is providing a solution that will benefit and help the customer desire the product and or service

4. ASK

The ASK Phase is the final phase many Customer Service people and even some seasoned salespersons dislike. It is uncomfortable to ask for money unless it’s a transactional retail sale. But if you realize that you have established a good relationship in the Relaxed-Phase, you have Disturbed them pleasantly. You’ve Relieved them with the opportunity to understand the benefits! Then asking for the money should come from a caring and empathetic position, not from a monetary grabbing position

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Malcolm L Stewart
Direct & Response Sales Entrepreneur! Main passions are Mental and Medical Rejuvenation through Relocation, Reinvention & Rejuvenation

Relocation – A Change in Environment Could be a Life Changer

The Liberation of Location

During life, nearly all of us go through some difficulties. Some of us, unfortunately, go through serious traumas. Some have PTSD or other mental health issues that are challenging to overcome.

I will be open and honest and say that I am Bipolar, suffered Depression in the past, and have PTSD from my Naval Service.

This article is mainly to inform of my own personal experience of relocation and hopefully help other people in similar circumstances to move on! It should not be taken as advice for other people. It’s just my story of how I found happiness again and a renewed purpose in my life! This is not based on any medical research as I am not a Dr or allied health professional.

It is my personal experience after three broken marriages and being abandoned as a child; I had some serious issues to reconsider in how I could take full responsibility for these events and move onto greater days ahead!

Current Environment

All the bad memories I had were involved in one city. The memory of the traumas’ memories and feelings constantly came up in this same environment every day was a challenge! Fortunately, I am persistent and resilient. I never wanted to live in this city but moved there for the wishes of other people.

We want to have a pleasant day in our lives. The biggest change that happened to me was when I was called overseas for two years that allowed me to take a break from this city, which has caused me so much unhappiness and pain!


This relocation, new environment, new people, new culture gave me the ability to move ahead with my life and reflect and repair any issues I had.

It took a couple of years, but during those two years, I had fun and stimulation in my work and, in turn, got myself to full mental and physical fitness. I’ve come to understand that motivation or goal setting isn’t the most important thing; it’s the change in one’s environment!

In my opinion, the most important thing to improve one’s mental health is to relocate to a new environment, whether it’s visiting a gym, interstate, or overseas!

Moving Forward

It’s important to disconnect from the people and places that cause you to have low self-esteem or reoccurrences of bad emotions or memories! Difficulties in getting through the day because of one’s mental health needs to be addressed.

Sometimes we sacrifice our own personal happiness to make other people happy, and that in the end wears us down if the sacrifice isn’t at least reciprocated.

There comes a time where one must take one’s own happiness in hand and go on that adventure, a new fitness regime, diet, or overseas, but the change in environment is the key.

That is why we go to gyms, yoga classes, or enjoy coffee shops. The environment is critical. We always perform better in a gym or at our own work because the environment stimulates our motivation to perform more efficiently! That’s why motivation doesn’t come first; it’s the environment!

The Destination

For me personally, my relocation was to Thailand was the change that brought me back to whom I really am again! I love the culture of the people!

Through my connections, I have now gained valuable experience in living and enjoying life in Thailand. There are also dangers and the pitfalls that happen to many relocating to Thailand.

Through my experiences, I am happy to assist anybody with any questions or support if they want to take that journey into this beautiful country and get away from any memories and or traumas that your current environment burdens you with.

If you would like the information on relocating to Thailand or any FAQ’s, please contact Malcolm Stewart at


Malcolm L Stewart
Direct & Response Sales Entrepreneur! Main passions are Mental and Medical Rejuvenation through Relocation, Reinvention & Rejuvenation